They say nobody chastens from somebody else, but as parenting is not studied in any university, it is important to pay attention to the mistakes they have made others to not repeat yourself. Read on and learn from the mistakes of others, recognize yours and still giving your children all the love they deserve.
All mothers and all parents know that parenting is not an easy task. Even with the best intentions are wrong and regret ever having done things differently. And it is that this important work is learned on the fly and requires one to be teacher, nurse, counselor, psychologist and even a little, without pay and without warranties. However it is done with an immense love and totally unconditionally.
We can all learn from the experiences of others, so if you have small children you will be interested to know what other parents were wrong previously. Most agree that if they could go back avoid overprotection, giving them everything on a silver platter and allow them to acquire bad habits that later could even harm your health.
All mothers and all parents know that parenting is not an easy task. Even with the best intentions are wrong and regret ever having done things differently. And it is that this important work is learned on the fly and requires one to be teacher, nurse, counselor, psychologist and even a little, without pay and without warranties. However it is done with an immense love and totally unconditionally.
We can all learn from the experiences of others, so if you have small children you will be interested to know what other parents were wrong previously. Most agree that if they could go back avoid overprotection, giving them everything on a silver platter and allow them to acquire bad habits that later could even harm your health.
Tantrums (tantrums) do not work
Each child has its own personality, some are more docile than others but whom else who least, there will be tantrums, whims and scenes you wanted to disappear. However, you must always maintain the authority and you can use those moments as opportunities for learning.
The lesson will depend on what the reason for the tantrum. Sometimes it's a matter of knowing the time of the child and if you sleep, for example, decide not to do certain tasks at that time because they can alter and cause undesired reaction.
Conversely, if the tantrum begins because you have denied something, try to calm him down (if necessary get him away from the group) and praise him as to be reassuring, but you rewards never giving what he or she wanted, or think that their serve tantrums to get what they want and then it will be harder to change its attitude.
Date to respect and set clear rules that everyone must follow
Stand firm and remember to set limits: they are necessary for any growing as indeed limited but not define, is a subtle difference that is very important, because the boundaries function as the rules of the game. Without rules it is impossible to participate.
This idea seems obvious. However, sometimes it is cleared and is the same adults who need to learn more about it. In what sense? For if you say no, it is not: who has not been swayed by those eyes so beautiful or that face good boy? But do not let that happen and have the objectivity necessary to distinguish between true tears and "crocodile".
At this point, it is also important to consider your warnings when you want the child or the child obey you. For example, if you tell them if you do not let any case ever watch TV in your life, you cannot possibly keep your word and, in that case you achieve your kids hardly believe you.
On the contrary, you can tell them you will not buy the candy he likes so much or will cancel the exit had scheduled. And you must always comply with the penalty or punishment warned when you do not obey. Remember that it is you who has the authority home: Make it worth.
A resounding no to the overprotection
Why so difficult to set limits? This attitude usually comes from the hand of another: overprotection. You do not want to see your child suffer and yields to the smallest child claim. However, the limits are necessary for the child to recognize that not everything is possible in life, you have to strive and that some things are harder to achieve than others. You will also learn about respecting others and how to behave socially, because "the rights of each end begin where those of others".
A mother or father is overprotective prevent your child get frustrated and give all served. This can also be transferred to other customs that, in the short or long term, can affect even the child's health, such as poor diet and certain habits such as permits them against all types of screens (television, computers, etc.), lack of exercise and poor cooperation with household tasks and responsibilities.
Sure it can be a treat tastier midafternoon a fruit and it is true that it is easier to leave them watching TV or playing video games that take every two days a club or their sport or dance classes. But the most difficult choice is often the most convenient. The easy way is possible to carry your child overweight, sedentary lifestyle and obesity, with all the consequences that implies.
Modern life has its challenges. Mom and Dad must work daily and take care to keep the home in good condition, in addition to caring friends and care for their children. Nobody said it was easy being a parent ... but do not give up. Be guided by your instincts and try to give your children the tools they need to defend themselves and to be responsible people when they are out of the house, now when they reach adulthood.
Each child has its own personality, some are more docile than others but whom else who least, there will be tantrums, whims and scenes you wanted to disappear. However, you must always maintain the authority and you can use those moments as opportunities for learning.
The lesson will depend on what the reason for the tantrum. Sometimes it's a matter of knowing the time of the child and if you sleep, for example, decide not to do certain tasks at that time because they can alter and cause undesired reaction.
Conversely, if the tantrum begins because you have denied something, try to calm him down (if necessary get him away from the group) and praise him as to be reassuring, but you rewards never giving what he or she wanted, or think that their serve tantrums to get what they want and then it will be harder to change its attitude.
Date to respect and set clear rules that everyone must follow
Stand firm and remember to set limits: they are necessary for any growing as indeed limited but not define, is a subtle difference that is very important, because the boundaries function as the rules of the game. Without rules it is impossible to participate.
This idea seems obvious. However, sometimes it is cleared and is the same adults who need to learn more about it. In what sense? For if you say no, it is not: who has not been swayed by those eyes so beautiful or that face good boy? But do not let that happen and have the objectivity necessary to distinguish between true tears and "crocodile".
At this point, it is also important to consider your warnings when you want the child or the child obey you. For example, if you tell them if you do not let any case ever watch TV in your life, you cannot possibly keep your word and, in that case you achieve your kids hardly believe you.
On the contrary, you can tell them you will not buy the candy he likes so much or will cancel the exit had scheduled. And you must always comply with the penalty or punishment warned when you do not obey. Remember that it is you who has the authority home: Make it worth.
A resounding no to the overprotection
Why so difficult to set limits? This attitude usually comes from the hand of another: overprotection. You do not want to see your child suffer and yields to the smallest child claim. However, the limits are necessary for the child to recognize that not everything is possible in life, you have to strive and that some things are harder to achieve than others. You will also learn about respecting others and how to behave socially, because "the rights of each end begin where those of others".
A mother or father is overprotective prevent your child get frustrated and give all served. This can also be transferred to other customs that, in the short or long term, can affect even the child's health, such as poor diet and certain habits such as permits them against all types of screens (television, computers, etc.), lack of exercise and poor cooperation with household tasks and responsibilities.
Sure it can be a treat tastier midafternoon a fruit and it is true that it is easier to leave them watching TV or playing video games that take every two days a club or their sport or dance classes. But the most difficult choice is often the most convenient. The easy way is possible to carry your child overweight, sedentary lifestyle and obesity, with all the consequences that implies.
Modern life has its challenges. Mom and Dad must work daily and take care to keep the home in good condition, in addition to caring friends and care for their children. Nobody said it was easy being a parent ... but do not give up. Be guided by your instincts and try to give your children the tools they need to defend themselves and to be responsible people when they are out of the house, now when they reach adulthood.
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