Does it affect children the divorce of their parents

There is nothing new in this, however what was found recently is that it depends on which age was divorce, will be the damage in children. The equation is simple: the older, less damage.

When a child between three to five years must live in the divorce of their parents is more likely to be a distant person to these even in his adult life, a child who goes through the same experience at an older age.

All children are entitled to grow up in a home set up, next to his parents and surrounded by all the attention that everyone needs to have during the first stage of life. A family provides support, security and is important for the emotional development of children.

Children have problems to understand that his Dad or his MOM will not be more at home. Wonder if they are the perpetrators of the estrangement and wait with hope reconciliation. 

In terms of reactions in children much will depend on their age and circumstances: how received the news, the proximity to both parents and the climate lived in the home during those years (conflicts, arguments), will be key when the definitive separation.

Always much talk about the consequences of divorce for each of the partners, but little is known about the high emotional impact that the divorce on children.

Now, sometimes marriage is frankly untenable and no choice than divorce. In these cases it is best not to stop the decision to separate, because there is no greater harm to a child to live in a violent home, however this process must be accompanied by psychological therapy to support and guide your child to exist the least possible consequences in the future and can develop in loving and warm relationships, not only with parents but with other people.

How the divorce can is least troublesome for children?
Separation happens to the couple, not the children. The link parents with children should be kept as narrow as possible, as much or more than before the separation. Should encourage them to continue seeing the other spouse, if possible daily, and the ideal, but less common unfortunately, is that no judge had to set when and how a child may want to see his father or his mother, since both put their interests ahead of the good of your child. When this happens, the child is suffering more bearable.

In conclusion, separation produces temporary loss of some benchmarks that keep children safe in life.

First of all is unconditional your child love, which will save you from future severe emotional problems ... and remember that love must prove, with the facts, but also with words, putting himself in the place of his son and acting with him as you would like to act if I were in his place ... just that, use empathy and above all make you feel safe ... then everything will pass.

And do not forget, if parents or children continue to have serious problems, please seek professional help.

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