1) Parents must be Friends with their Children
Parents, first of all are parents. This involves a series of rights and duties from the role of father are very different from the role of friend. A friend is basically the same, that is, a young man of the same age as our son with whom he shares many of his experiences and that at this stage of adolescence is one of the most important reference models to the detriment of parents.
From here the parents can have a good climate of understanding with your teen, listening to their problems and trying to help but not as a friend but from the responsibility acquired since birth, upbringing and further education. Because parents have a legal responsibility and are required to provide all material care (food, shelter, clothing, hygiene, etc.) and psychological (education, affection, etc.). A friend may advise a parent must also make decisions for the good of their children even if they are painful.
Parents, first of all are parents. This involves a series of rights and duties from the role of father are very different from the role of friend. A friend is basically the same, that is, a young man of the same age as our son with whom he shares many of his experiences and that at this stage of adolescence is one of the most important reference models to the detriment of parents.
From here the parents can have a good climate of understanding with your teen, listening to their problems and trying to help but not as a friend but from the responsibility acquired since birth, upbringing and further education. Because parents have a legal responsibility and are required to provide all material care (food, shelter, clothing, hygiene, etc.) and psychological (education, affection, etc.). A friend may advise a parent must also make decisions for the good of their children even if they are painful.
2nd) The Empty Nest Syndrome
Often we find parents who say they feel a great frustration for your child / teen wants to be less with her and shown little or nothing and loving. Sometimes it also happens that there are rebellious behaviors, confrontation and questioning of parental authority. Given this scenario of change in the children, some mothers often complain with expressions like: "I have dedicated my life to take care of them; giving up everything and so they pay me ...”
Certainly some parents may feel that way but should note that these changes are part of the "normal" developmental course of children and our task is to accompany them throughout the process of transition to adulthood, understanding their changes but also knowing set limits and certain order.
Also comment that parents should never give up their own personal project in order to exclusively dedicate his life to their children. This is a mistake. If we want to be strong parents, safe and consistent models for our children, we must be able to think not only on them but also on our well-being as individuals.
Parents who combine dedication to their children with work, leisure activities, sport, personal care, etc. They are young parents who admire and respect more than parents who have been abandoned in all respects with the excuse of "sacrifice" so misunderstood by their children.
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