Parenting according to your childrens personality

Having a child with an opposite personality sometimes creates tension. Here are some suggestions to help you embrace the differences.

Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, authors of Nurture by Nature: Understanding Personality Type your child - and become a better parent, write soon-to-be-parents often have certain expectations about the personality of their children. While children do share biological mother and father's DNA, this does not guarantee that they will share the same characteristics, interests and inclinations. In fact, they may be polar opposites.

While parents are the most loving intentions for their children, they tend to see them as mini-me - like carbon copies of themselves. However, this, all one-size-fits-raising not take into account that different people are motivated in different ways.

It is natural for mom and dad to be deeply invested in their children's personality - the hope of the interests of their offspring will be a reflection of his own. "It's so easy to get more involved in their successes, failures, struggles and achievements,” "We come to see them (the children) as extensions of ourselves and of his experiences as inextricably linked to ours. We do not see those as individuals, but as different expressions of us."

Personality traits are stable: Myers-Briggs
The type Myer-Briggs Indicator, an assessment of the personality that identifies sixteen different types, is a native of the theory of the famous Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung that children are born or develop specific thinking and acting forms and that these features remain essentially stable. Personality informs all aspects of a child's experience - how they play, what they like, how they make decisions and how often and how they interact with others.

If parents can learn to observe their children from a distance slightly objective - to understand its inner workings - that can create a powerful "virtual road map" more effectively discipline, motivate and develop self-esteem in their children.

Customize your style of parenting
Adapting an approach to parenting a child's unique features help reduce power struggles and builds self-esteem. "You have to be a chameleon," writes Dr. Phil in his book Family First. "You have to change styles with different children."

For example, if the mother is an authoritarian, but your child acts more of this approach, you can leave your child reach some of their own solutions to any problem that is happening.

Ignore the pressure group Parents: Authentic child honor
While it may be difficult for parents ignore the mountains of the advice of colleagues, parenting according to unique characteristics of a child rather than the expectations of peers provides positive messages to children and teaches them that their parents honor and value your true self.

Dr. Phil believes that while it is an admirable goal for moms and dads who want children to grow up happy and feel good about themselves, but should also "help your children discover their authentic self - discovery what is truly, uniquely yours. " In other words, learn to recognize the strengths of a child and then the parents in that direction. 

Parenting as the unique personality of a child, even if it is completely different from mom and dad, it is a positive and powerful for building self-esteem and self-teaching approach.

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