Discrepancies in the couple raising children

Ideally in a parenting where parents go through the same educational line, read the mind what they want to do and achieve and that everything is an idyllic education. But however coordinated that parents are always discrepancies may be times is that two different people with two different mindsets can always see things differently.

Why are there discrepancies
The reasons why a couple may have discrepancies when it comes to raising children can be quite varied. Two people come from two different families, different academic backgrounds, received a different education and vivid experiences depending on the environment where they were. The reality is that all parents have the same goal in his heart the best for their children. 

But that "best" cannot be the same for one and another, something that can certainly end up in a discussion even when changing a diaper. Perhaps a parent has a more permissive parenting style and the other more flexible or authoritarian. But if there are discrepancies it is likely to be a golden opportunity for sharing ideas with your partner and put on the table the best decisions for your child to have a good development and you argue as little as possible with your partner.

In what must agree
That the children are not confused in nurturing and can feel the confidence and trust that their parents are on the same line, it is necessary that you have clear as a couple what is what must be in agreement or at least reach understandings so that children know what is expected of them at all times. You need to avoid at all costs the eternal struggle (and less before the children), the idea of ​​wanting to call the shots without stopping to think what is right for children, it is certainly a serious mistake ... only favor chaos the family.

When only discrepancies home children only learn to be intolerant, not respect others, to not be able to properly communicate with the other, will not be able to solve problems and what is worse, to have behavior problems because of the emotional instability that causes them the whole situation. This will require you to have cleared some important points in the education of children: the rules, limits, permissions, departure times, privileges and the (positive and negative) consequences.

When parents are separated
Discrepancies are usually even higher in divorced or separated parents (but you cannot generalize, because I also know cases of parents who get along even without a life as a romantic partner and look the best for their children), which are made the children in the middle and attack through them because of bitterness, resentment and all the negative feelings they have toward each other ... something that will certainly affect negatively to the emotional health of children and that is selfish the parents.

All children need to have parents (together or separately) to be strong, responsible and emotionally balanced so that not only are able to resolve disagreements through good communication, but also be able to put education and parenting children ahead of anything that has to do with them. The children and their guide in learning and in life should be paramount, and if there are discrepancies have to solve through dialogue and in private.

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