How to deal with a teenager “indecent"?

Your son or daughter who until recently loved and was happy to share their time with you and your family, suddenly starts to pull the doors and yell. It is a difficult stage announcing the arrival of adolescence and for which you have to prepare with patience and following some useful advice as I give in this article.

The pout, eyes cast back, silence, hurtful responses, "leave me alone!” The closing doors violently. Sound familiar to any of these scenarios with your child teenager? Do not worry, it's nothing against you, and you are not alone.

That child who loved and you paid attention, you involved in their activities, you hugged and kissed spontaneously, it now seems that only the memory remains. Adolescence is the stage in which young people seek their independence and identity, and react against parents. Although it is painful, say it is part of the process. 

Youngsters do not have the ability to communicate their emotions clearly, and thus usually do so hurtful reacting to their parents. Instead of saying, "I need to be alone, Mom, can you go back to my room for a while?” You will cry that you leave her alone and shut the door in my face.

In the same way, they will ask the favor that bring to a party, but insist that nobody, absolutely nobody can see them get you. Although it sounds like you are away from your life to be close to their friends, which really means it is that you are very important to him or her, but find it hard to admit, especially when they are close to their friends. These have become the center of your life because your child sees as the gateway to a world independent of parents.

It is painful, I know. But do not take it personally or definitive. It is a stage of development that too shall pass. Your children you seek, and then you depart. One day in, day out. It is a roller coaster. For now, take a deep breath and notes:

Do not take it to heart. That is, do not think your child does not love you. Remember that it is a normal stage of development and that he or she is simply acting as do the boys of his age.

Give space when possible. If your child wants to be alone , for example, a night out with friends, always permit as you know it's a safe situation and can get in touch with him or her if necessary.

Of course, if your child responds to you disrespectfully and is rude you, take action. Profanity and insults are not right and must put limits from the start. Ideally, do not let emotions confuse you, think calmly and talk to him or her about this issue when the two has happened anger. For example, if you let him go to a party and your child adolescent insults you, tells you regret, and threatens you, you should insist that getting angry is one thing, and quite another to vent anger that way. Teach by example that anger and lack of control but do not bring more problems. Give him a lesson of love by opening a space for dialogue and firm putting your authority, always remembering why you do it. It is for good.

If dealing with a teenager mouthy and rude it makes you hard and too emotionally affect you first talk to your partner and find solutions together. It is also helpful to talk with other parents about it or even seek advice from a specialist to help them pass this stage without too many traumas and sorrows.

Keep in mind that dialogue, patience and love, are your best allies. Do not cast your children approach them with understanding your behavior and opens the door for them to feel safe with you, to the point to be honest and tell you when "do not need" without hurting your feelings.

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